My interests are reflected in the two books I have written: self-criticism and the distress caused by reproductive loss, and decision making (such as whether to try for a child at all).

People come to me for my help with a wide range of problems, yet nearly always, a self-critic lurks beneath them all, getting in the way of things. I find it really helpful to get to grips with this self-critic before any other ‘work’ begins on the presenting problem – for example, if we berate ourselves for being anxious, any techniques we may learn to address our anxiety will be hampered if we don’t respond more compassionately to our anxious brain (which is never our ‘fault’). It’s a mental habit I like to focus on, and I’m confident I can help you on your way with ideas and practices and to help you ease a self-critic’s grip. In an effort to inspire people to think more about how they relate to themselves (often, critically), I wrote a book about this, more here.

I also specialise in working with the very many of us who suffer loss in pregnancy, at birth and with infertility. I have written about miscarriage extensively, and my first book explored the varied experience of miscarriage (see here). I have been involved with the charity, the Miscarriage Association for over 20 years in various guises (as a Trustee, volunteer support help, mental health advisor). I also help people decide if they want to try to become too, which has become an increasingly complex decision since I first begun work in this field.