It estimated that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and yet it persists as one of the least known pregnancy stories. In The Brink of Being, I encourage us to reflect upon this often misunderstood, and little-discussed event.
Drawing on my personal experience, stories from my professional work and research over the years, and interviews with professionals in the field, I attempt to provide history, context and consolation for anyone who has been through pregnancy loss or wants to know how to help someone who has.
I also investigate miscarriage in terms of how we respond to women’s bodies and reproductive health, our attitudes to birth and death, and how we can – and should – encourage more curiosity and candid conversations, in order to better support the many affected by this loss.
I am currently writing another book exploring the universal habit of self-criticism, also for Virago Press (UK).
The Brink of Being was published in the UK, and the USA (Penguin). Its rights have been sold to publishers in Taiwan and Poland. You can buy it here.
‘Bueno’s choice of language is considered and thoughtful, unpacking difficult issues that are so often avoided for fear of causing distress. She writes with sensitivity and compassion, filling a much needed void in discussion around the subject, and opening the door to more candid conversations.’
Katy Lindemann, Observer
‘A much needed book on this difficult and often unspoken loss, that of early pregnancy … both illuminating and consoling.’
Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works
‘Intelligent, sensitive, and utterly candid … It’s the sort of book that women have long been searching for, and it feels like real progress. I’m so thankful she wrote it.’
Meaghan O’Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything
‘This is a book of profound insight, rare courage and calm, searching compassion. It made me reflect, not just on miscarriage, but on the solace of the intellect, and the euphoric rush of a broken silence.’
Zoe Williams, Journalist
‘A thoughtful work that identifies and honours an important passage of life for a great many women.’
Julia Leigh, author of Avalanche
‘Julia is one of the most intuitive and compassionate and curious psychotherapists around, and in her approach to miscarriage all of these qualities are shown.’
Sathnam Sanghera, Journalist
‘Wise and compassionate, Bueno is the friend (and expert) you want when you or a loved one suffers miscarriage. This is a profound game-changer of a book that can not only support women, but can help reshape a society that often ignores or sweeps women’s issues under that proverbial rug.’
Caroline Leavitt, New York Times
bestselling author of Pictures of You and Is This Tomorrow
‘Beautifully written and thoroughly researched, The Brink of Being is vital reading, both for those who have experienced miscarriage and for the people who want to support them. I think a lot of people are going to be stronger for reading this.’
Keith Stuart, author of The Boy Made of Blocks
I have talked about my book, and the themes it involves in few podcasts: