What follows are general thoughts about training as a psychotherapist – the training routes for psychoanalysts, counsellors and counselling psychologists will be different, as are those for coaches or indeed psychiatrists. Before considering anything else, I’d think about funding. Training involves a whopping financial hit. For example, to complete an MA in Integrative Psychotherapy (rather than the slightly less rigorous Advanced Diploma) at a reputable (London based) training organisation will cost upwards of £18k in fees. Other hidden costs sneak in along the way, including your own regular psychotherapy (over the course of the 5 or more years), supervision costs for clinical work once begun, books and training materials, along with the potential of an increasing loss of income as the training takes up more of a working week. If you have a family, there may be childcare costs too.

In my day, it was ‘encouraged’ to avoid applying for a training as a young adult – I was relatively young at 30 to begin. Things are different now, partly because of age discrimination laws. Lissie Wright, Director of Training at the Minster Centre tells me, ‘Young or old, we look at people individually. We are interested in a developed capacity for self reflection and an openness to other experiences. You may have that at 25 or 55. We are interested in why someone wants to train at that point in their lives. It’s a postgraduate training anyway, so we also expect some sort of previous training’. My cohort certainly had fascinating hinterlands – I trained with a TV producer, an actor, a social worker, a lawyer, a publisher amongst others. Many still combine their previous incarnation with a psychotherapy practice – another bonus of the job.

Most trainings are alive to the needs of adult learners, and allow for staggered learning, making it relatively easy to take time out and stretch the (otherwise) 5 year path. Although this may help ease the impact of life’s slings and arrows, training can still be tough to combine with all else life involves. The learning is not just intellectual and academic (and therefore involves essays and deadlines), but is experiential and rests a lot upon self-awareness, reflection and psychological development. Making sense of your early sibling relationships or parent’s marriage in a ‘personal development group’ before going home to finish off a presentation for work and dinner for the kids can feel overwhelming.

Indeed, I’ve been asked more than once about the potential emotional disruption during a training – how difficult it may be to assimilate any internal changes that are a bi-product of an intense journey into our inner world. Lissie Wright may well flag this up to prospective students, ‘Four or five or more years of personal therapy and training may well have an impact on your life and priorities. Relationships around you may have to adapt while you study, reflect more, and think differently. We look for people who will manage all of this potential through a self-awareness.’ I remember only too well revising the roles played out in relationships around me, realising patterns that had previously been out of my awareness. Luckily, this was all for the good and resulted in a strengthening rather than weakening of relationships – but this didn’t happen with all my colleagues at the time.

But regardless of the emotional and financial toll a training brings, a big consideration remains whether it’s possible to make a living out of being a talking therapist. The NHS isn’t recruiting any time fast (unless you are prepared to train further to work in a particular way it seems currently wedded to), and other services have suffered such enormous financial cut backs that you are highly unlikely to find a job in the Third Sector. Realistically, a private practice will be the best source of income – and here’s where experience in running your own business will help. There are many of us out there – as the directory on welldoing.org shows.

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