Lust is easy.  Love is hard.  Like is most important.  (Carl Reiner)

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.  (Rainer Maria Rilke)

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.  "Pooh!" he whispered.  "Yes, Piglet?"  "Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's paw.  "I just wanted to be sure of you."  (A.A. Milne)

 

 

In my experience, struggles with relationships often cause unhappiness, and often bring people into therapy - individually or in couples.

Outside professional help can often help to get you and your partner to create a healthy relationship again - this is what you both deserve. I don't think it's about going back to what "was", but about working on a new relationship that you are both prepared to commit to.

It may also be that your relationship is already at an end but you would like help with negotiating this constructively, and with dignity.

There are many reasons for seeking therapy as a couple. They may include:

  • a general breakdown of communication
  • frequent arguments that end up in the same place each time
  • a sense of something "lost" from before
  • the impact of childbirth/adapting to becoming parents
  • the impact of an affair (perhaps an internet one)
  • where a work/life balance negatively affects shared time
  • an experience of abuse in the relationship
  • sexual problems
  • a bereavement
  • coping with a divorce or separation

If you make contact about relationship work, I will send you and your partner a fairly detailed questionnaire to reflect upon and complete. This helps me to prepare for our first session and our subsequent work.

It may also let me know if it's appropriate for me to refer you on if I feel your problem lies beyond my experience and competence.